A few months ago I asked these two questions to my students
Ten things you want your parents to stop doing and Five things you want your parents to start doing
I got some interesting responses
Things I want my parents to stop doing:
—Stop comparing my life with your childhood. Things were really different back then, so stop comparing.
—Stop using these words and phrases: use your brain, are you deaf? Can’t you see? Useless, careless, good for nothing….etc….
—stop showing off my skills. I don’t want to dance in front of your friends. I don’t like to do that. Why do you force me to sing/ dance or show my artwork to our relatives or friends?
—Can you speak softly? I’m tired to hear you shout, every day, every single moment.
Things I want my parents to start doing:
—Smile, please… I don’t remember when was the last time my mom smiled. She usually carries a frown on her face. That look irritates me.
—Hug me, I see how my mom hugs my 5-year-old sister, but when I run to hug her…she immediately says, “Later, first do you work” huh!
—Tell me a story. I’d love to listen to their childhood tales, especially about their mistakes, failures, and mischief. But my parents always keep telling about all their achievements. It makes me scared. What if I can’t achieve success the way they achieved….?
—Keep that WhatsApp aside. Talk to me, mom & dad.
—Can I sleep in your bedroom at least once a month? I love cuddling you guys.
So parents, wondering what to gift your child this holiday season, here’s your list. Be present for your children and make parenting engaging and fulfilling.