A few months ago, I asked these two questions to my students:
“Ten things you want your parents to stop doing and Five things you want your parents to start doing.”
And I got some very thoughtful responses!!!
Things I want my parents to Stop doing:
- Comparison. Stop comparing my life with your childhood. Things were really different back then, so stop comparing.
- Nagging Words. Stop using these words and phrases: Use your brain, Are you deaf? Can’t you see? Useless, Careless, Good for nothing..etc….
- Unnecessary Show Off. Stop showing off my skills. I don’t want to dance in front of your friends. I don’t like to do that. Why do you force me to sing/ dance or show my artwork to our relatives or friends?
- Always Shouting. Can you speak softly? I’m tired to hear you shout, every day, every single moment.
Things I want my parents to Start doing:
- Smile. Please… I don’t remember when was the last time my mom smiled. She usually carries a frown on her face. That look irritates me.
- Appreciate. I know I’m not good at all things, but many things only I can do, no one else can. So a little bit appreciation is good.
- Hug me.I see how my mom hugs my 5-year-old sister, but when I run to hug her…she immediately says, “Later, first do you work” huh!
- Play with me. I love to play with my friends, but playing with mom dad is fun! If only they had time to play…
- Keep that Whats App aside. Talk to me, Mom & Dad.
- Tell me a story. I’d love to listen to their childhood tales, especially about their mistakes, failures, and mischief. But my parents always keep telling about all their achievements. It makes me scared. What if I can’t achieve success the way they achieved….?
- Your Presence. Can I sleep in your bedroom at least once a month? I love cuddling you guys.
So parents, wondering what to gift your child this holiday season?
Here’s your list. Be present for your children and make parenting Engaging and Fulfilling.